What Is The First Thing To Avoid Doing During Divorce?
What’s the first thing not to do during a divorce?
Don’t panic and try to stay calm. We know that Divorces are difficult and that just the mention of Divorce sends a slew of emotions through people. When people are going through a Divorce they are usually at their most vulnerable. When your spouse tells you they want a Divorce, try not to lose your temper and don’t let your emotions get the better of you. It is easy to overreact and lose control of the situation if you don’t think before you speak or take action. If you feel that you need a Divorce, or if your spouse says they want a Divorce, contact the attorneys at Andrews & Sanders and let us help you choose the next step. Try your best to keep calm and remember: no divorce happens overnight.
What do you do if Sheriff delivers divorce papers unexpectedly?
Obviously, don’t lose your cool with the Sheriff. Under Georgia law, a private process server can also serve you with the Divorce papers. If this happens, take the papers they are trying to give you. Stay calm and contact an attorney. More than likely, you already have an idea of what the issues are. As difficult as it may be for you to receive the divorce papers you are served, take a step back and try to look at the issues from a different perspective. Take the papers from the sheriff. Do not refuse or cause a scene- it will come back to bite you in the long run when the legal proceedings begin. Overreacting like this, or reacting too quickly, is one of the main things not to do during a divorce.
Can you go home?
When most people receive Divorce papers, they already have an idea of some of the issues. Some people still attempt to live together but others don’t get along and choose to separate from each other. . Going home depends on the circumstances- each case is different. At Andrews & Sanders, our attorneys can advise you on the issues that have been presented and advise you on the potential conflicts and consequences that may arise.
If Family Violence is an issue, our attorneys can help you take the necessary steps to try to prevent any further violence.
The last thing you want is to make the situation worse. One common misconception is, you don’t have to lay claim to house. If you leave for a valid reason for a few days it is okay- it’s not abandonment.
What about the kids?
Stay in touch with the kids. Both parents have equal rights to the children. Generally, whoever stays in the marital residence should keep the children- our goal is to keep the children in a stable environment and to try not to let this divorce change their lives too much. If Dad is out of house, Dad should stay in contact with the kids. Try to work with your spouse regarding visitation. If the spouse is uncooperative, let our attorneys negotiate an acceptable visitation schedule. Both parties were parents before the divorce and both parties should continue to be parents during the divorce. The Courts want to see that parents have their children’s best interest in mind. Avoiding your children or blaming them for the issue at hand is definitely one of the things not to do during a divorce.
What about Bills?
First and foremost, pay the bills; we can divide up the bills later. Judges don’t like to hear bills are not paid. It is better to argue over reimbursement then have to go to Court and explain why the power was cut off. When you contact our attorneys at Andrews & Sanders Law Office, our attorneys can instruct you on what needs to be paid. Our experience has shown us what the Court does and does not like to hear. Take a deep breath, we’re here for you. We’ve done this time after time and we have a whole list of things not to do during a divorce. Trust us, and we will try to make this situation less painful for you to the best of our abilities.